Showing posts with label Mother. Show all posts
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Monday, August 27, 2012

Willis Reunion 2012 - "Oh Bess, What a Dress!"

As Cousin Susan Scott Neal was preparing the Journal for the 2012 Willis reunion in August, she asked me to send her what photos I had of Bessie Hiter Willis, my great-grandmother.  I sent two that she had seen and another one of my grandmother, Bessie Willis Freeman, wearing a dress her mother (my great-grandmother, Bettie Hiter Willis) had worn for a singing concert.  Susan immediately emailed back, wanting to know all about the dress.

I called my cousin, Robert (Bobz) Freeman, in Asheville, NC.  He thought the dress was in an old trunk that his brother Bill had.  I called Bill in Winston-Salem, NC.  He said Grandmama's wedding dress might be in there but he didn't think her mother's dress was there.

When Bill and his wife, Corty, arrived at the motel in Culpeper, he came in with a fairly large cardboard box.  Guess what it was!  Yes, it was THE dress!  He was afraid to touch it because he thought it would fall apart.  We lifted it out and were surprised at what good shape it was in.

I remembered a letter that Bessie Hiter Willis had written to her mother in 1869, in which she said her cousin was getting married and in this letter, she described the dress she'd like to have made to wear to this wedding.  This was the same dress she wore for a singing concert where she won a medal.  Her mother and their seamstress only had this written description to go on -- no drawing or photo.  The result is just phenomenal.

It was made by Mrs. Anderson and we think she might have worked out of the C.H. (court house) which was likely near Rock Spring, their home in Louisa County. She must have been the family seamstress?

The photo below is my grandmother, Bessie Willis Freeman, wearing her mother's dress which was worn in a singing contest.  Her mother was my great-grandmother, Bessie Hiter Willis.
The Willis Framily reunion in 2012 featured this photo in their journal with the caption, 
"Oh Bess, What a Dress!"

The historical costume professor from JMU, Pam Johnson, came to my house in Virginia to see the dress. She was fascinated and before I said a word, she said it looked like about 1870. The letter about the dress was written on November 17, 1869. She thinks the fabric is wool, although it feels much like cotton.


She's going to get acid free tissue paper and a special storage box.  She said a temporary display might work but not long term because it would deteriorate.  She would like to put it on a dress form long enough to take detailed photos to use in her classes. She knew all sorts of details about the features and said that Bessie Hiter Willis definitely wore a corset with it. It's possible that it was just after the hoop and bustle era but not necessarily. 

She would not recommend that it be cleaned and said the musty smell probably mostly came from the box. It isn't nearly as musty as it was at first. What a treasure it is!
The letter from Bessie Hiter Willis mentions a pattern and Pam said there were patterns for dresses like this.
She would love to have it as part of JMU’s collection, although she put no pressure in this regard. The only other really old dress she has is from the 1840s and this one is far nicer and in better condition. I know it would be revered at JMU.
The skirt
  This is the basque, which is a close-fitting bodice, sometimes having an extension that covers the hips.the extension of this bodice or of a doublet.

It turns out that the Culpeper Museum does have proper storage that is air conditioned and humidity controlled. 


It is now 2019 and Cousin Bill Freeman donated the dress to the Culpeper Museum.  When they "unveiled" it, they had an elegant wine and cheese party.  The director talked about the dress most of the evening.

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Willis Reunion - Sharing my Great-Grandmother's Journal

I found a journal written in 1864 by my great-grandmother, Bessie Hiter Willis when she was 13 years old.  I dressed in costume and presented excerpts from the journal at the Willis Family Reunion on August  12, 2012.  (There were about 140 people present.)
Cousin Talia Moser with her "Great-Grandmother Bessie Hiter Willis"
How can I begin to write about one of the most positive, intense experiences of my life?  

First, I was too busy living "in the moment" to take photos and so were cousins Bill and Corty Freeman.  Keep in mind, it wasn't my costume or me that captivated the audience.
Corty Freeman and MaryMay Angelil

I practiced with my brother, Philip, the week before and he gave me some good coaching on pacing and expression.  I was careful to speak directly into the mike so everyone could hear. 

Before I began, I reminded my family that "this is REAL," then "transformed" myself into Bessie Hiter Willis, age 13.

You know how, in most any audience setting, there's always a little movement, shuffling, and a bit of coughing?  That did NOT happen during my 23 minute presentation!  People seemed spellbound by our great-grandmother's words.
Explaining that the journal was the size of half a notebook paper.  The 1864 portion was loose papers but were, thankfully, numbered.  The 1873 portion was pinned into a booklet with straight pins.
I was so nervous but was determined to convey her thoughts.  I was embarrassed that I got emotional a few places but got feedback later that the tears made it all the more poignant. 
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The excerpts I chose from the l864 portion of the journal were about how the Civil War affected Bessie's everyday life and about her older brother who went off to war at 17 but was dead of typhoid in just two months. 

Bessie's final statement in this first portion of the journal was quite perceptive for a 13-year-old girl.

"April 29, 1865    
General Lee surrendered on April 9, 1865 to the Yankees.  Lincoln was murdered in the theater in Washington on April 15th.  Andy Johnson is now President of the United States. 
The Yankees, so far, have been lenient to the people of VA.   How I do hope somebody would ruin the Yankees.  They acknowledge that they did not whip us, they overpowered us.  All this for nothing."

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From the 1873 part of the journal, I chose some of the ROMANCE entries!  

"January 5, 1874  
Have refused E.H.W. twice.  For good.  ...But why should it trouble me? ...I should think if I was in love with him, I'd know it."   (E.H.W was Eugene Harrison Willis, who became our great-grandfather.) 

"July 26, 1874 
He says his feelings have not changed and that he loves me more than ever before....but wants to know if there is any hope for him.  I knew not what to say." 
The journal ended in 1874 with Bessie being offered two teaching positions.  This was a real cliff-hanger!!!

However, things moved along because two years later they had their first son....and after that 8 more children!
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Philip helped me write the closing, which I thought was rather good:
"Speaking to you as Mary May Angelil....my great-grandmother's journal gave me unique insight into who I am and from whom I came.    When someone dies, we usually only know them through pictures and things written ABOUT them.
Today we have had a real and special glimpse into our great-grandmother’s life through her very own words. She was born in 1850 and died in 1923. This was Bessie Hiter Willis."
 Just think, all this from a little old shoebox!

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Willis Reunion 2012 - Unique Setting


I showed you in my last post an outside view of the barn where The Willis Family Reunion was held. 

(Thanks to Cousin John Moser for the photos in this post.)



The inside was a very unique setting for a meeting and lunch.  

This is a real "live horse" barn!


Betty Long inherited Locust Hill Farm, which has been in the Willis family for 148 years. 
 

Here Michael and Betty Long welcome the family to their home.
This barn, if I understand it correctly, was built fairly recently and is a state-of-the-art equestrian facility, Locust Hill Equestrian Center.
Somewhere I saw a write-up about this style of rafters and the type wood used, but can't locate that piece.
During the program, the horses were just quietly listening with a snort now and then.

They were friendly to young and old.




Cousins Werter Willis and Kat Stoneman were co-presidents this year.  There is a lot of planning and organizing that goes on behind the scenes for this reunion, which is held every 2 years.
After the program came the potluck picnic luncheon, featuring brown sugar pie like my mother used to make and other great Southern dishes. (Mmmm)!

Until the next post:

Monday, January 16, 2012

A Year Ago

It's hard to believe that my dear Mother went to heaven on a rush of angels' wings a year ago.  It is reassuring to know where she is but oh, how I do miss her!

This song was sung in church the following morning and really touched my heart.  Please take a meditation moment and listen to it:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iD2Q-S1tI0Y&feature=related

"Surely the Presence of the Lord"  
by Lanny Wolfe

"Surely the presence of the Lord is in this place,
I can feel His mighty power and his grace.
I can feel the rush of angels' wings, 
I see glory on each face,
Surely the presence of the Lord is in this place."

Sunday, December 25, 2011

"To Me, From Me"

This is a Christmas gift "To Me, From Me," Actually, it's from Mother since it's cash from her estate that made this possible so, "Thanks, Mom!"

I sewed draperies for the living room of my first apartment, using orange burlap with bamboo poles from a carpet store for rods.  

Since then, every place I've lived already had window treatments.  When we built in Virginia, Aunt Lib (who was an interior designer) had draperies made for us.

So, it was a new and scary experience to order custom draperies.  Here's the "Before" view:
A gal who lives here in Savanna Club works for a business in Stuart called In the Shade.  She was so patient and it worked well that she could stop by on her way to and from work.
The installers came on Christmas eve eve, which was nice timing for Christmas.
Much to my delight, the TV didn't have to be moved.
But that meant that they did have to assemble everything on the floor.
Heave ho, up we go!
Just as Sandi predicted, the shiny strip added interest and draped beautifully.
What a great addition to our little Florida abode!
Bye, bye brown valences and hello light teal draperies!  The color blends perfectly with our teal sofa.  Moving the rods to the ceiling also makes the room look more elegant.
What a difference wonderful window treatments make!!

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Fun Family Photos

Family funny - Notice their expressions, especially Peter's.
Do click on this one to see a larger view.  Bet you'll laugh!
This is my great grandmother, Emma Swank May (above on the right).  Isn't her hairdo (below) interesting?  Daddy always said he liked her little earrings and it does appear she's wearing them, which was rather unusual for those days.
I haven't figured out when people started smiling for photos.  All the really old ones have people with very stern expressions.

Walker H. May's baby picture.  Different, huh?
Will Walker ever get a break?  Notice the lace collar and bow.
Walker and Clarence went "fishing".  Looks more like frogs to me!  I think this picture is neato!

Walker Henton May, Jr.
He was a darling, red-headed, freckled little boy and.....
I'd say this little cutie pie turned into quite a "fox"!  Wouldn't you agree?
Little M.E. (I was always called Mary Elizabeth when I was young) looking puzzled as to why Cousin Stashia Ann was crying.  I can almost hear Grandmother laughing.
Talk about a shy, little cutie pie!  Oh, Anita!
Just let it all hang out and get comfy, OK?


Anita at attention as a youngster.

Anita in college! 




The May summer "swimming pool".  What could be more fun than swimming in a tub?
Speaking of cute, let's hear it now,  "Awwww".
Daddy, Phil, and Perky enjoy some TV.
The studious one.
You can wear whatever you like as long as you practice!
 

A Teddy Bear (Phil) holding a teddy bear! 1972

 Philip's wild perm days!
Phil, The Ham
Ed was very impressed when Phil shot out the window behind the lunch table one Sunday and within 10 minutes got 3 groundhogs!

Like mother, like daughter?
Like mother, like daughter?
Look at "Legs" here!
One reason I moved to Puerto Rico was so I could play tennis every day, which I did!   Were my legs really that slim?
Cousin Stashia in her silly stage!
Ellen and April Krull with Aunt Mary
Auntie Mary being a good sport.

 "Perchers" at the May picnic
We used to fight to have a turn to comb Grandmother Freeman's hair.  She was a good sport, wasn't she?
Aunt Mary, hitting the bottle again?
 
When Levi was about 3, we went out to eat.  When the waitress asked him what he wanted, he said,  "I'll have the American fish."  We'll never know how he came up with that!



Photoshop Fun

 
 
Uncle Bob's boyhood suit.

Levi in Uncle Bob's suit. 
He appears to be thinking,  "Ok, I've done my duty.  Can I get out of Uncle Bob's %#$ suit now?"




My two personal favorites are saved till last!

Cousin Bobz Freeman entertained us as kids with his monster walk.  We're glad to see that he hasn't lost his special talent!

A May family "fun album" would not be complete without this world-famous shot.
The names have been omitted to protect the innocent!